If that’s the case, don’t worry, you’re not alone.

This is one of the most common problems people face when starting a new fat loss program. You get so much information about training methods and how to eat healthy that somewhere down the road, you don’t know who to listen to.

I am not going to say that I am The GUY for you and that you always should listen to me. What I am going to say is that I got 3 tips for you that will give you the results you want, and to be honest, it doesn’t really matter what fat loss program you follow!

1. Get it out of your head

A lot of people set goals and then keep them inside their head, for no one else to see or hear. This is not actually a goal, it’s a dream.

In order to make something a reality, something to focus on, you need to get it out of your head. Write it down on paper, tell your friends about it, type it in to your blackberry, etc.

The minute you start taking the dream out of your head, and can see and feel it yourself, that’s the minute the dream has become a goal.

Now, keep checking that goal as often as you can, and talk about it as often as you can. Make it an obsession, and I promise you’ll be one step closer to that goal of yours!

2.    Set a deadline

Do you remember your college years? Your professors showed you how to plan for your exams and how you should study way ahead. For some people, this works, but a lot of people end up sitting up the whole night before the exam studying.

I have been there myself. Sometimes I planned really good several days ahead, but sometimes I ended up studying the night before the exam. I am great under pressure, deadlines work amazingly good for me, and I am not alone.

Studies are showing the power of deadlines, and how we often tend to perform even better under pressure, so it’s not me sitting here making it all up, it’s scientifically proven!

So if you start a new fat loss program, set a deadline to when you should have reach your goal weight and be as specific as possible, focus on how you are going to achieve your goal within the given time frame, rather than just setting a date with the goal weight.

As an example, if the fat loss program tells you to work out for 5 days a week and gives you tips on what to eat 90% of the time, then write that down and don’t allow yourself to fall off from that plan!

3.    Erase negativity

This is probably THE MOST important tip I have for you! If you want to achieve your goals and not just let them stay with you as dreams, you need to be in a positive environment.

If your friends are constantly having a negative attitude towards, for instance, physical activity, then the chance of you sticking with a physical activity program is very small.

Friends are supposed to support you, not drag you down. If you feel your friends and your surrounding is stopping your from taking your dreams and putting them into goals, goals that you know you could achieve, then these people are not your friends.

I have had so-called friends like this, and honestly, they’re not my friends anymore. Sure, I still talk to them once in a while, but I don’t spend a lot of time around them, because I know if I do, they are going to drag me down to the bottom where they’re at.

That’s really the way I see it. People who try to drag their friends down and have a negative attitude to most things in life, they’re actually at the bottom, and I don’t want to be there with them.

Do you?

If you have a hard time finding support in your surrounding, a great tip is to find it online through forums and communities. Give a try!

So, there you got it, 3 tips you must take action on in order to succeed with your new lifestyle. And honestly, if you do, you’ll succeed with almost any exercise plan out there, that’s a promise!
Good luck!

Jonas Forsberg

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But just a minute ago I dropped over to one of my fitness colleagues’ blog, and I found this message written by a young girl in New York, terminally ill with cancer. After reading the first lines, I felt I remembered it from somewhere, and that was when it hit me, this was the email I deleted earlier today from my email inbox.

After reading it at Simon’s blog, I felt I just had to do the same thing and share this poem with everyone. I did the very same mistake the girl in the poem are telling us not to – “don’t dance so fast”. I was in such a hurry that I didn’t even bother reading the email from my inbox, and as you’ll notice when reading the poem, I missed out on a beautiful and very touching message. Don’t make the same mistake as I did!

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SLOW DANCE

Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?

You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Do you run through each day
On the fly?
When you ask How are you?
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done!
Do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?

You’d better slow down
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Ever told your child,
We’ll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say,’Hi’

You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift..
Thrown away.

Life is not a race.
Do take it slower
Hear the music
Before the song is over.

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So please, follow this young girls advice. Make a phone call to an old friend, tell your family how much you love them, spend an extra minute or two with your kids. Drop whatever you currently are doing and spread the joy of love and friendship!

Share this message with everyone you know!
Regards,
Jonas

PS. Thanks Simon for sharing this poem with us!

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It was my fathers birthday on the 28th of December, so yesterday he and my mother went out to buy him a nice looking suit as a birthday gift from the family.

Before they went, I told them to pay a little extra for the suit and choose a smaller store, not go for one of the larger chains here in Sweden. They didn’t listen to me and instead they went through 3 classic and well-known stores in order to try find a nice suit.

You see, my father is pretty short and have a few extra pounds, so I told my mother to make sure to get the suit tailored, but she said it wouldn’t be a problem to find him a suit at the bigger stores.

When they came home, I knew how it had turned out.

My father tried out some suits at the bigger stores, and just like I said, it wasn’t fitting him perfect. Either it was the body of the jacket or the sleeves that were too long.

Sure, that was one of the reasons I told them to pick a smaller store, but the most important thing was regarding the treatment. You see, at the larger stores, the personal touch didn’t exist. The staff were standing at the counter and talking to each other, making jokes, basically they were doing everything else but taking care of their customers!

The second they stepped into the smaller store, they had a staff member come up to them and asked if there was something they needed help with. In a matter of seconds, they had 3 suits my father tried out, and he found one that he just loved, but it was the same problem as he came
across at the other stores, the suit wasn’t fitting 100%.

So what did the staff member at this store do?

He took out the seewing needle and tape measurement in order to get the suit tailored for my father!

The bottom line, my mother ended up paying a little more and chose the smaller store, which resulted in the fact that my father got the suit he wanted, and it is going to look amazing on him!

What’s the message behind all this?

Well, in 2009 it’s going to be even more important then ever before to focus on the treatment of the customers, and with greedy owners only thinking about money and growing its company, somewhere down the road you lose the most important thing – the connection and trust from
your customers!

So that’s the reason I don’t see you as a customer that I am going to sell my Burn Fat at Home program to, I see you as someone to build a relationship with for the future.

By staying with me in 2009 you are going to see that I will take care of you no matter how much my business grow and how much money I make.

As a proof of that, I have built a free community at http://burnfatathome.ning.com for you so we can get to know each other, I am spending hours a day mailing and chatting with Burn Fat at Home followers, even though I haven’t received a penny from some of them!

I have given away free workout programs and nutrition programs, all for you! I am also having a huge launch of my Burn Fat at Home Deluxe Package in the middle of January where you will be able to buy the Deluxe Package for the price of the Basic Package.

So with that being said, I just want to wish you a Happy New Year and I hope to hear more from you in 2009, and really hope we can get to know each other!

And as a lesson if you are working in the service industry: ALWAYS help the customer and make the experience as giving and pleasurable as possible for him/her!

By staying with me in 2009, you are going to be treated the way you deserve, I promise you that!
2009 is the year of giving and helping, don’t forget that!

Gotta run now, but I talk to you next year =)

Best regards,
Jonas

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